Give up obsession

Rich our lives, our world is complicated, so we will be more troubles, pressure will be even greater. We often encounter such a situation: a friend make an appointment in the afternoon and you have to talk business, you have to say about the friends, first talk to, and ask you if you success in your work. Attention! Friends begins with this sentence, such as burst its banks flooding began. Endless. You will hear the complaining side of injustice, unfairness of life, as well as in life, unfortunately; should not complain about others and their own something back … …, when your heart again and again to complain over, this afternoon considered wasted.

People’s minds a lot of grudges, but the final analysis, are caused because of people’s opinionated. Do not say that they educated, high-quality pairs of people are very generous, it is just a one-sided appearance, in fact every person will have a stubborn side, but would be difficult to change once the stubborn rise. How do you know what could be obstinate? May wish to control the following questions to once stubborn diagnosis.

1, you always constantly complaining.

From the morning, eyes open one, you will hate the night is too short in the face of the mirror Xingsong the sleepy eyes, you have to wash their faces with cold water. Lack of sleep so thin, “caterpillar” unwittingly climb your face, so that you fear may miss the fast and youth. Damn work, damn the rest of time, damn the manager’s remuneration is not damn impressive. Outside the home and ushered in damn air is not fresh. Selling early in the where, why bother … … Think of the traffic that day complaining about the work that we do not know how sad the heart.

2, you have completely lost their sense of humor.

With colleagues at work place conflicts, old Liu insisted that its own right, one morning in this irritated. Lunch break is up, old Liu beat a man Men Men eating a pork chop. Xiao Zhang Xiao Yan carrying his Fanpen children amused Minato over, “Hey, a man alone to eat food?” Xiao Zhang is not so re-opening old Liu straight on a “rolling”, Sally will be bitterly way away. Joke did not know, there is no breathing space. So when his mood was bad due to random temper completely lost a sense of humor, you are on the note, and is your stubborn at play.

3, for you to say, it seems that everyone is stubborn.

Is mildly entertaining to this sentence sounds very strange how everyone’s stubbornness will also face its own, but often it is, so, so that you unconsciously do not know how to face others, to confront ourselves. That actually is your heart stubborn in trouble, when your thoughts have changed, you feel all the external events that will change as you change. Naturally, when you can not fully accept the views of others, you will begin to stubborn, listening to the views that can be absorbed and can not address the origin of things, you would think that others are against you and stubborn. Then you lose solution to the problem and opportunities.

4, it’s difficult for others to come with you.

A lot of work for the successful completion of all thanks to the cooperation of groups, groups of forces can not be ignored. Whether the person with you in your eyes how bad, you can not underestimate his ability to work. Subdivision up there’s nothing a person can independently, and respect everyone, do not underestimate the capacity of each person, because everyone will play in his position you have an irreplaceable role.

5, each task must be a tremendous effort to complete.

Doing anything is not easy, but do not want anything too difficult, in fact, done a lot of things will be very smooth, not as you can imagine, there are a lot of resistance.

6, there is nothing can be done to make you satisfied.

You are a perfectionist, nothing could make you satisfied, your pronoun is “may,” “okay,” “not very satisfied”, you will think you are the most perfect standard. But you do not forget that there is an old saying it this way: stand tall fell and weight. In the end is always hurt themselves.

7, happy and enthusiastic people who make you upset.

Around us there are always some enthusiastic people, the day cheerfully being, to see if other people have difficulty needs its own help. These people appear to make you annoyed, your indifference, self-confidence, ability to face life, face the cause, know when to be received can be put, no care from others. Do not forget, you still smooth and slick, and then carries out, there are side does not work because you are normal, you have a vulnerable side.

8, are you endeavoring to prevent the people involved in what you are doing.

This is the only source that is not trust. Do not believe in other people’s ability to blind pursuit of personal sense of accomplishment. If you have overcome the above point 4, which is also well settled. Do not be afraid someone else will be bad for your things, there is no assurance does not go wrong, regardless of the outcome, there is always someone else’s idea of good things make you learn.

9, it will not tell you important information, you will feel that they have been excluded.

One day you will feel that someone has to talk in secret, you ask about the side, others are vague and not talk about, as if this matter has nothing to do with you. The heart to relax more, and perhaps something to do with you, know that there is the burden of xing XU. Even if the information about yourself, so people say go, I am me, and become the focus was not easy.

Stubborn is a disease, a psychological disease, a person’s health is not only physical health, but more importantly is the psychological was not ill. If the above 9 o’clock there are inconsistencies with you, the best way to learn to give up, give up their stubborn relief.

First of all, give up your opinions and viewpoints have been insisting on. No matter what, if you are walking on the road ahead very difficult, it may have been self-test to see if they adhere to the opinions and viewpoints. Try to give them, the saying goes, one step back brighter Well, if there will be an opportunity to remedy errors and re-turn will have greater power.

Second, get your position clear to insist on allowing you to pay what price. Think of a de facto circuitous tactics of it, anything not to hard on the hard battle. Even if you get a tough victory, withdraw array will be perceived to harm the body scales injury. Any conflicts are all human created, there are great to deal with people assert is the most troublesome thing. This situation in order to retreat not better.

Again, make sure your return is worth your while to stick to their guns to pay the price. I remember a film obtained by a revelation: a boy of 20 dollars loaned to the students, after one of his classmates see him run, They leak to say “sorry, not today, two days later I still you.” Every time has been long overdue, which makes the boy is very angry. So he has been told this matter to take care of his boss. Boss asked him do that students will have the ability to repay, he said no. Boss asked him if he is your friend that the students do, he said that the students is very annoying, he did not like. After the boss told him: First of all error in you, you should not lend money to people you do not know. Second, the error still in you, you consider the problem of the wrong ideas, you use the 20 dollars will be forever rid of this you do not like people, Is not worth do.

Stubborn is that each person will be there, and sometimes other people’s mistakes, try one of the willing to communicate with him, try from another perspective; sometimes our mistakes, as trying to shirk the responsibility of away blame, did not say, you should apologize; work, commitment to understand and respect each other’s working pattern, on this basis, the co-founded a new partnership.

Learn to be tolerant, benevolent heart to treat people, for interpersonal relationships and personal life to assume full responsibility, because you are the master of your life.

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